CHAPTER 1
the futility of the "try harder" solution

Christian duty
Rejoice always - so - Stopp being depressed
Trust God - Stopp worrying
Patients - Grit your teeth and bear it
Self-control - More respect for your self and your Christian witness
> I often or only thought like this till now / I could even write down a scripture to each of this claims
You need to / You've got to / You're suposed to / You better
WILLPOWER - HARD WORK
I can become more Christlike just through trying harder
The problem in my life is behavior
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The inadequacy of the "TRY HARDER" Solution

It's simple: Just let people know what they are supposed to do and motivate them to do it.
Using the right motivation, many people will respons by changing their behavior - at least short term
> Yeah - the last few month basically was for me thinking about how to motivate. But if this books shows a other way then just becoming a great motivator it will be incredible. I thought: ALL I HAVE TO BE IS THE BEST MOTIVATOR! Blessed the church with the best motivator! This is what i basically thought and still think. I HAVE NO REAL GOOD SOLUTION.. .. .. 
You Can't Simply Will Yourself into Spiritual Fruit
choices we make > important
will we exert > important
> Yes - all this scripture about character Rom5,3 Not only so, but we3 also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope.
5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. ////////// 2.Petrus1,5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.
BUT - IT IS NAIVE AND UNBIBLCAL ::: if we think that our effort is the primary way we bring about fundamental change in our live
> I thought and still think it is my effort primary if i change in a fundamental way : because of scripture about 'ALL MY HEART' / Rom5/2.Petr1/Noah/Herb5,7+8/>>I have to say: Don't know any other - not much to prove what i believed till now!
willpower plays a role in overcoming behavioral problems
willpower cannot itself change fundamental aspects of a person's character. FOR EXAMPLE:
willpower alone cannot make an unloving person into a loving person or a depressed person into a joyful person. > This sounds convincing to me (I miss Bible-scripture here)

When it comes to fundamental aspects of a person's character, exhortations to try harder often resultes in the person pretending to be one way when that is not the case. > Pretending into believing that i am till i am! Like the TED-Talk: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html
or like i was reading in Nadal's book: 

Rafa. Mein Weg an die Spitze

Rafael Nadal (Autor), John Carlin (Autor) 

> i would say - Nadal was forced into the image of a winner. He saw it in his oncles. He was beaten into it by his trainer and Oncle Toni. The same with Andre Agassi. Tyler Hamilton. This books i was reading. i was fascinated by the WILLPOWER of this people!

A person can try hard to ACT loving/joyful
A person cannot actually BECOME loving/joyful ::: simply by trying to be so
> OK I HEAR YOU - I AM NOT SURE - SCRIPTURE PLEASE!!!! 
What should i do now? If Shawn Wooten would not give me the book and say, IT IS AWESOME, by now, i would through it away....
TRYING HARD CANNOT PRODUCE THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT! > the TED-Talk would say now - i guess.
We cannot will our self in to: loving/joyful/peaceful/patient/kind/generous/faithful/gentle/self-control
The fruit of the spirit is not first and foremost about how we act : it is about how we are
Not about our behavior - it is about our heart/soul/innermost disposition/Veranlagung > OK - MAYBE - I wish their is a more easy way. A RESTING WAY.... 
fruit of the spirit is not about our strive by our own effort

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT - NOT FUIT OF OUR OWN EFFORT
> Yes right - !
Yielding to the Spirit
SO
how to grow the fruit of the Spirit?
WE CAN'T :-)
The Spirit grows the fruit of the Spirit

How does the Spirit grow the Fruit of the Spirit in us?
When we are with GOD / rested in HIM /< learning how to rest in him > Sounds nice - almost too nice to be true!
A L L O W   T H E   S P I R I T   T O   T R A N S F O R M   U S   B Y   H I S   G R A C E
As we rest in: LOVE/JOY/PEACE/PATIENCE/ the HOLY SPIRIT makes all of this real to us, we become more Christlike, more loving, joyful, peaceful and patient.
> This sounds interesting
As we behold the glory of God in the face  of Jesus Christ, we are transformed into his glory:
2.Cor3,17 Der Herr ist der Geist; wo aber der Geist des Herrn ist, da ist Freiheit. 18 Nun aber schauen wir alle mit aufgedecktem Angesicht die Herrlichkeit des Herrn wie in einem Spiegel, und wir werden verklärt in sein Bild von einer Herrlichkeit zur andern von dem Herrn, der der Geist ist.
2.Cor4,1 Darum, weil wir dieses Amt haben nach der Barmherzigkeit, die uns widerfahren ist, werden wir nicht müde, 2 sondern wir meiden schändliche Heimlichkeit und gehen nicht mit List um, fälschen auch nicht Gottes Wort, sondern durch Offenbarung der Wahrheit empfehlen wir uns dem Gewissen aller Menschen vor Gott. 3 Ist nun aber unser Evangelium verdeckt, so ist's denen verdeckt, die verloren werden, 4 den Ungläubigen, denen der Gott dieser Welt den Sinn verblendet hat, dass sie nicht sehen das helle Licht des Evangeliums von der Herrlichkeit Christi, welcher ist das Ebenbild Gottes. 5 Denn wir predigen nicht uns selbst, sondern Jesus Christus, dass er der Herr ist, wir aber eure Knechte um Jesu willen. 6 Denn Gott, der sprach: Licht soll aus der Finsternis hervorleuchten, der hat einen hellen Schein in unsre Herzen gegeben, dass durch uns entstünde die Erleuchtung zur Erkenntnis der Herrlichkeit Gottes in dem Angesicht Jesu Christi.

BEHOLDING more in part2 - involves the Holy SPirit to inspire our imaginations.
> I AM NOT SUE NOW
GOD PLEASE HELP ME TO FIND THE WAY!
JESUS IS THE WAY
IT IS NOT VISIBLE IN JESUS HOW HE CHANGED
HOW HE GREW
HOW IN THE WORLD CAN I CHANGE DEEPLY
EVERYBODY IS TEACHING THIS!

GOD HELP ME TO FIND THE WAY!